A poverty mindset is that nasty little gremlin in your subconscious that is sabotaging your efforts at making more money. On the outside, we assume we are doing everything we can to change our lives for the better. On the inside, the gremlin is tripping us up at every possible opportunity.
For some people, no matter how many skills or opportunities available to them, they always stop short of success. A variety of factors could account for this but one worth considering is your attitude to money. Everyone wants money. We know we need it, but deep down do we like it?
Do we like money? Surely everyone likes money I hear you say. Apparently not.
I knew I wanted money because it allows me to pay my bills, buy nice things, go travelling, etc. However, when I saw a video by Morgana Rae talking about her Money Honey I discovered I was scared of mine!
She took us through an exercise where you ask yourself if money was a person, what would they look like? Her Money Honey was a handsome young man who always looked after her and I wasn't expecting mine to be much different. I was wrong.
When I imagined my Money Honey, it took the form of a menacing creature, dressed in dirty, smelly rags, hunched over by the bins as if it had just risen from a dark place to do me harm. The physical feeling this bought up for me was one of disgust and fear. I could feel my stomach clench, my anxiety levels rise, and a desire to run away as fast as I could.
I was SHOCKED!
No wonder I failed to take advantage of all the opportunities I had in front of me. Somewhere deep down, money brought up those feelings and I had NO desire to deal with this evil figure.
It sounds crazy I know, but it made sense to me. My experiences in the past dictated how I felt about money. For me money was always a problem. In my childhood it was my parents struggling to pay the bills and buy food. As a student I was always living on the breadline and when I earned money, I had to pay back a student loan. I had never known what it felt like to have more than enough, having the freedom to buy whatever I wanted, or have enough money to save. Money meant stress, paying debts, paying bills and avoiding debt collectors.
I recreated the same scenario when I moved to Spain and spent years worrying how we would pay for food, the bills, petrol, etc.
I created a negative association to money which meant thinking about, or making money bought up feelings of how it would be taken away.
So, your turn. Set aside a few minutes to close your eyes and think about what money means to you. If it´s not positive, I strongly recommend you start working to change your money story as soon as possible!